在寻求离婚的夫妇中，超过60%的人仍有孩子住在家里。(6)有些父母在申请离婚时没有意识到离婚对孩子的伤害和影响。离婚在很多方面影响孩子。它影响孩子的情绪，使他们经历痛苦的感觉，如恐惧，失去，愤怒和困惑。离婚还会影响孩子的学业成绩。父母离异的孩子通常考试成绩较差，辍学率较高。(3)离婚后，孩子们的反应虽然不同，但却很相似。每一个被离婚所困扰的孩子都有一段艰难的时期来应对它，并想象他们没有父母的生活。当他们感到自己将要被抛弃时，他们的焦虑程度达到顶峰。他们会因为失去另一位父母而感到孤独。 Different children go through these emotions at different levels and at different times depending on the child's age. How bad or how well children handle the divorce depends on how the situation is handled. It can throw the child's entire life into a whirlwind. Young children, up to age five or six, are the most confused and the most disoriented by their parents' separation. They often fear they are going to be abandoned by their parents, which causes great anxiety. The loss of a parent is extremely sad to a child of this age because they feel that their needs are not going to be attended to as well as they had before, when their needs are not going to be attended to as well as they had before, when their family was together. Many of the children in this group are worried that they will be left without a family or their parents might have money troubles and they will be deprived of food and toys. These thoughts that children of this age have cause them to have feelings of guilt, being unloved and fear of being alone. Some children will be extremely sad and show signs of depression and even sleeplessness. They might feel rejected by the parent who left and think that it is all their fault, that they weren't good children and their parents stopped loving them. They also sometimes have increased tantrums, or may cry more easily than usual. Children at this age may develop physical complaints, like headaches, or stomachaches due to this depressing situation and time they are going through. Psychologists Judith Wallerstine and Kelly interviewed and studied children of different ages whose parents were divorced, to see the impact divorce had caused these kids. "They blame themselves for their parents' breakup" exclaimed Wallerstine "one child felt that her play had been too noisy, while another thought that daddy didn't like her dog". ( 4) School age children experience some of the same problems as younger children, but they usually display more signs of anger, worry or sadness. Some children of this age group act like "they don't care" about the fact that their parents are getting a divorce and others will simply deny that their parents are getting a divorce. Others will choose sides and blame the divorce on only one parent. They start expressing more anger toward the " bad " parent, meaning the one they accuse for ruining things. In this age group, half of the children that were studied by Wallerstine and Kelly reported feeling rejected by one or both parents, and in general, almost all children received less attention because their parents were worried about their own problems during this difficult time. (4) All of this, from the rejection of the parent to the anger and the stress within the child,causes a significant disruption in the child's ability to participate freely in the learning process. Anxiety, restlessness, inability to concentrate and disturbing thoughts about the separation all contribute to this disruption and lead to a drop in school performance. Like the younger group, these children will also become...